Pleasure is Experienced in The Present Moment

This may sound obvious, so why am I writing it?

What I’ve found that I do, and many of my clients do too, is that we put off feeling pleasure until some fantasy moment in the future.

Oh I’ll let myself feel pleasure when …

… I’ve lost weight

… I got this promotion

… My business is in this place

… My health is fully recovered

… My kids are at this stage

… My house is properly organised 

… Everything on my to-do list is done

… I have the perfect partner

And on and on and on!

The voice that tells us to hold off until some perfect moment, often sounds very reasonable, because it’s backed by our society’s fixation with productivity and status. A society, where many of us have been brought up to believe that we need to earn our joy and pleasure, that it comes after we’ve been a good worker bee and earned our place in society. And so we unconsciously police ourselves in alignment with these beliefs, forgoing pleasure until some later date that rarely or never happens. Forgetting that we’re adults now and that no one has authority over us anymore and that we can create our lives on our own terms. 

So whilst it sounds easy to experience pleasure in the present moment, it actually takes practice.

Practice unwinding the beliefs that it needs to be earned

Practice putting our attention on pleasure instead of on our to-do list

Practice creating the time and conditions to experience more pleasure

Practices which I’ve been supporting people to create in my Pleasure Deep Dive Sessions. These are a mix of me teaching pleasure principles on how to expand pleasure in your body and then coaching on specific desires and blocks that you have. Before the session, I’ll check in to see if there’s any area that you would like me to focus on and I will cater the teachings to your needs. The session will be 60 minutes long, I’m offering the next ten of these for £50 then the price will go up. There are currently 10 spaces available at this price. Message me if you want one X