The Pleasure Upgrade
6 Week Coaching Programme Starting on the 18th of January
Learn how to experience more pleasure, understand your bespoke desires and have better sex. Get great at asking for what you want and receiving it.
What people are saying
“There is an another entire level of pleasure and connection that I wasn’t aware of, that I didn't even realise I desired. This course has not only resulted in the best sex I've ever had - it has stretched into every corner of my life.”
— Aislinn - Attendee of The Sex and Embodiment Course
“This course gave me the space to access my desires, my sex and explore what pleasure is for me. With Caoilfhionn and these incredible women I found a place for them to be validated, explored and enhanced through embodied practices with a group of open and curious women”
— Rachel - Attendee of The Sex and Embodiment Course
Who is The Pleasure Upgrade for?
It’s for women who …
Are in a relationship and want to expand the pleasure you experience with your partner or you want to bring the spark back
Are single and want to have more satisfying sexual experiences
Want to explore your desires
Want to get great at asking your partner for what you want
Want to think less in bed and feel more pleasure
Want to feel more turned on
Want to know how to touch your partner with more confidence
Are open minded and excited to be in an environment where feminine sexuality is celebrated and openly discussed
You will learn how to…
prioritise your pleasure
feel more turned on
think less and feel more during sex
expand your capacity for receiving attention, touch and pleasure
know what your desires are and how to ask for them
have honest, vulnerable conversations on desires and sex
have more fresh, explorative sex
confidently touch and explore your partner’s body
Course Logistics
Lower Waged/ Concession
£265 Paid Upfront or available to pay over 2 months at £135 each month
Standard
£365 Paid Upfront or available to pay over 2 months at £185 each month
VIP Includes 5 1:1 Coaching Calls
£1,000 Paid Upfront or available to pay over 2 months at £505 each month or over 3 months at £336 each month
Coaching Calls will be on every Wednesday starting on the 18th of January at 6.30pm GMT, 10.30am PDT, 12.30pm EDT and they will run for 6 weeks. Each coaching call will last 90 minutes
The Pussy Stroking Call will be on the 8th of February at at 6.30pm GMT, 10.30am PDT, 12.30pm EDT and it will last 30 minutes
There is also a full scholarship available for someone who doesn’t have the means to pay for the course and really desires to do it! Please book a call with me to apply. I am also open to offers of bartering/skill swaps too.
If you are considering joining and would like to have a call with me to chat through to make sure it’s the right fit before signing up, please book in a call with me. I would love to connect and answer any questions that you have.
Payment Options
What Does it Include?
6 Coaching Calls.
90 Minutes over Zoom - once a week. Each call will include a mix of me teaching and holding group discussions and coaching on the topic.
Pleasure Practices.
Guided pleasure practices to do in your own time at home. There will be written step by step instructions and also audio recordings for you to follow. These practices are dedicated to connecting you to your erotic self and expression.
1 Pussy Stroking Call.
30 minutes over Zoom. A voice guided pussy stroking practice, where your audio and camera will be switched off. You will be guided through an explorative practice of connecting with your pussy.
6 Workbooks.
Each coaching call will have it’s own workbook detailing the key points, recommended further reading and the week’s homework and practices.
What topics will we cover?
Week 1. Opening to Pleasure & Turn On
Understanding your current beliefs around pleasure and sex
The Power of Pleasure
How to support your libido and turn-on
Cultivating Pleasure in Your Day to Day Life
Removing or minimising areas of stress
Creating time for Pleasure
Week 4. Stop thinking and feeling instead
Why you may find it easier to be in our head
How fear can distract you from being in your body and what to do if it comes up
The power of attention, breath, sound and movement for bringing you into your body
Expanding your capacity to receive attention, touch and pleasure
Going slowly, at the pace of your body
Week 2. Connecting with your Desires
Understanding the blocks to knowing what you want
Letting go of ‘the good girl’
Why desire is so important for your life & turn on
Real desire vs. Fake, Good Girl desire
Connecting with your desires as a practice
Week 5. Expanding Pleasure in Sex
Understanding feminine anatomy of arousal
How to create more turn on and pleasure in the body during sex
How to listen to your body during sex
Exploring erogenous zones
How to touch your partner confidently, whilst also experiencing pleasure
Week 3. How to keep Sex Alive and Exciting
Looking at your current sex scripts
Sex as a practice of flow, where each moment opens to new possibilities
Exploring goalless sex
Stopping sex when you feel done
Creating explorative sexual experiences
Scheduling sex & dates
Week 6. The Art of Communication
How to prepare for honest conversations with your partner, getting clear on what you want to say, understanding your role and releasing any resentments
How to ask for what you want in bed and your desires
The art of vulnerable conversations with your partner
Hi! I’m Caoilfhionn. A coach specialising in pleasure and sex. I decided to become a pleasure and sex coach because honestly, I was struggling with it all so much. I was bad at asking for what I wanted. I got resentful when lovers couldn’t touch me the way I wanted. I said yes to penetration before I was ready. I struggled to have orgasms with lovers and often ended up giving them to myself. I found it hard to concentrate on pleasure because my mind chatter was SO LOUD. I wanted to explore and try BDSM, polyamory and sex clubs but I was afraid to do anything ‘too out there’. I also ended up experiencing chronic UTI’s which turned into Interstitial Cystitis, Pelvic Pain and Vulvar Pain. All of this pain and frustration culminated in me going on a big odyssey to improve my sex and heal my pussy.
That process started six years ago. I began by reading books on female sexuality, exploring various sex positive communities and taking practitioner training in Tantra with BDSM, The Jade Egg, Orgasm, and the Sexual Path to Awakening. In my personal life I experimented with having multiple lovers, I attended group sex experiences, I received Tantric and other erotic massages. I took part in BDSM scenes. I also received various chiropractic, osteopathic and somatic experiencing healing sessions for the pain I was experiencing.
This whole journey revolutionised my sex and healed my pussy. Yeay! I’m now engaged and in a loving, hot, monogamish relationship with my partner, Matt. My journey has inspired me to share what I’ve learned with others to help them have the sex and experience the pleasure they desire. I’ve been coaching people 1:1 for the past three years, I regularly host workshops online, I’ve taught online courses and I also host a podcast called ‘In Bed with Caoi’. I’m on a mission to create a world where feminine sexuality is celebrated and treated with reverence and where everyone has better sex! The Pleasure Upgrade is a gathering of all the principles, practices and techniques that have transformed my life and have also transformed the lives of my clients.
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Lower Waged/ Concession
£265 Paid Upfront or available to pay over 2 months at £135 each month
Standard
£365 Paid Upfront or available to pay over 2 months at £185 each month
VIP Includes 5 1:1 Coaching Calls
£1,000 Paid Upfront or available to pay over 2 months at £505 each month or over 3 months at £336 each month
There is also a full scholarship available for someone who doesn’t have the means to pay for the course and really desires to do it! Please book a call with me to apply. I am also open to offers of bartering/skill swaps too.
If you are considering joining and would like to have a call with me to chat through to make sure it’s the right fit before signing up, please book in a call with me. I would love to connect and answer any questions that you have.
Payment Options
FAQs
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No zoom calls won’t be recorded. If you miss a session you can book in for a 1:1 catch up session with me for £35 or you can follow what we covered from the session worksheet. Call worksheets and recorded meditations will be stored in a Google Folder.
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Yes, refunds are available up until the first call is completed. If you find then that the course isn’t for you, you will be refunded the course fee minus the pro rata cost of the first call. Once the second call has completed, the offer of a refund will no longer be available.
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No there will be no nudity on the call. During the pussy stroking call, I will be guiding the practice using my voice only. You will be taking part in the comfort and privacy of you own home with the camera and audio on your zoom switched off.
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No. Everything in this course is an invitation and an opportunity for you to listen to your body on whether you want to do something or not. If you don’t want to do the pussy stroking call, don’t do it.
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No, there will be no groups or threads for this program.
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I would allocate between 30 minutes to 1 hour a week for practices. If you can’t do this, you can still use the workbooks when the course is over to do the practices in your own time, when you are less busy.
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I will start each call by introducing the topic. I will then do a short grounding meditation to help everyone to drop into their bodies. I will follow up on the previous week’s homework to see how everyone got on and if anyone had questions, reflections or got stuck. I will then teach on the week’s topic, interspersed with questions to attendees, opportunities for others to share their experiences and expertise and sometimes I will lead a group activity. I will close out by sharing the next week’s homework.
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Yes. Sex can be an intense topic, I need to be able to see you to feel how you’re doing.
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It depends. If you have experienced sexual abuse or intense sexual trauma and you have not yet worked with a therapist, healer dedicated to supporting you with this, I do not recommend this course. If you have had support or you are currently receiving support, this programme may be suitable for you. The best way to determine this is for us to have a call to chat through in more detail.
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Yes, the material in this program is geared towards women of all sexual orientations. I’ve experience of working with women of all orientations and am bi myself.
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Yes, the material in this course is suitable for kink and poly practitioners. I’ve experience of working with women who are kink and poly practitioners and have practiced both myself.
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My training and experience to date on this topic has been limited to cis women. I’m not currently qualified to support you with your bespoke needs. I can recommend other more experienced practitioners, so let me know if you would like me to refer you to them.
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The course name, The Pleasure Upgrade will not be included. My business name Caoi Nic C Coaching will be named alongside the product option you chose e.g Concession Pay in Full