Why becoming more embodied helps you to stop defaulting to your people pleaser persona

I had this experience this other day.

I wanted to do one thing, but I imagined that someone else wanted me to take the opposite action.

This person hadn’t expressed that, in fact all evidence pointed to the contrary, but my brain used them as an inner critic, puppet, avatar to beat myself up with.

In response to this perceived judgement, I felt shame for wanting what I want.

Like I was a bad girl (it was a young part of me that was having these thoughts), and that I would be abandoned and discarded for not complying with someone else’s wishes.

The pressure ‘to make it’

I was daydreaming recently, as I do

I was dancing in my room

Getting my groove on

Feeling joyous

I started to imagine that I was a DJ

Playing my favourite tunes, guiding everyone to ecstasy with the beat